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Shyness involves negative feelings relating to our self and our abilities but, unlike social phobia (social anxiety disorder), it doesn't involve
panic. Levels of self-doubt and insecurity appear lower, perhaps due to less conflict and pressure in childhood or possibly due to any conflict
being tempered by love from others, extra support or positive life experiences. However, self-doubt still remains, as does the fear over attack
from other people, which is clearly demonstrated in the observation that shy people find it difficult to maintain eye contact.
Without the panic-filled phobia brought on by significant threats to our self and security experienced by social phobics, the fears involved in shyness
are milder. Eventually we come to accept the reason for our nervousness and fears... we are shy, a shy person, and this is reason enough to confirm and support
our inner feelings.
And so we live our life accordingly, lacking in confidence and daring, being safe rather than taking chances simply because we are shy. We avoid 'difficult' situations,
though all the time longing not to be shy and wanting to be confident like everyone else.
Social phobia to a lesser degree? Inner self-doubt, insecurity and fear of interacting with other people lie at the heart of shyness.
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