Today, cognitive (thinking) and behavioural problems involving high anxiety and fear are classed as anxiety disorders. This is based on the medical model, which views these
problems as mental illnesses, 'disorders' where something goes wrong in the brain and the answer lies in 'fixing' the thing that has gone wrong – often with medication.
Take the middle-aged woman (emotionally fragile from early life stress and conflict) who suffers emotional abuse at the hands of her
partner – abuse that not only scares her but also makes her feel that she cannot do anything right, and that everything she
does fails miserably or is totally worthless. Is her generalized anxiety disorder (or severe depression for that matter) simply the result of something
going wrong in her brain that can be fixed by medication?
What about the man in his early twenties, riddled with anxiety, whose father constantly put him down and criticized him with such venom as a
child that he's now petrified others will do the same. Is his social phobic behaviour truly dis-ordered and irrational?
Or the teenage girl brought up by overly strict religious parents that have so drummed the fear of God into her that all she can do to
obtain relief (from punishment by the Lord) is turn to rituals. Are her obsessive, fearful thoughts and compulsive behaviours really all down to mental illness?
Generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, social phobia, PTSD, panic disorder, severe depression – are any of these problems truly irrational, dis-ordered and mental illness?
Or is there a better explanation?
How many 'normal' people...
Say 'Touch Wood' so as not to tempt fate?
Repeatedly check doors, windows, switches?
Take a drink before social functions?
Avoid public speaking at all costs?
Almost everyone displays behaviours associated with anxiety disorders and depression (such as disturbing thoughts, ritualistic checking, the need for
perfection, increased anxiousness, panic and despair) to some degree at some time in his or her life – more so in times of stress – for these problems reflect the subconscious ways
we humans have evolved to protect ourselves.
When we look at the backgrounds of large numbers of people with anxiety and depression problems, they are often strikingly similar in many ways. Stressful life experiences with
subsequent feelings of insecurity and damaged self-esteem occur across the board with such regularity, and are so similar, that it is hard to see how these factors cannot play a
major role in the onset of these problems.
Feeling in Some Way – 'Bad' / 'Wrong' / 'Not Good Enough'
Research shows that over 50% of anxiety disorders start before the age of fourteen. It's probably more like 90%.
The way we feel about our self in childhood and adolescence can stay with us a lifetime and those who experience feelings of insecurity and vulnerability when
growing up are surely more susceptible to develop anxiety-related problems later in life. This highlights a critical component in these problems that hasn't really
been given the attention it deserves: the way we feel about ourself deep inside.
"Bad, wrong, not good enough, pathetic, useless, weak" – who, with an anxiety disorder (or depression), doesn't feel like this often? But
these feelings don't just come with these problems... they are part of the cause.
Shattered self-esteem and being scared is a very potent mix. It overwhelms us, leaving us full of self-doubt and fear, making us too afraid to try, to venture, to risk. And it's these
doubts and fears, shaped by the life experiences that caused them, that determines the type of (anxiety) disorder that develops.
And so, all that you read from 'Help-For' is based on the premise:
Not diseases, disorders or mental illness, anxiety and
depression problems involve natural survival instincts common to us all – normal self-protective thoughts, feelings and behaviours that become over-sensitive and intensified,
grossly exaggerated and out of control.
They develop from experiencing too many (or too severe) stressful, negative life issues and events... ones that make us feel weak and vulnerable.
In essence, these problems come from our subconscious trying to protect us when life has made us afraid. And they start, strengthen and grow from our mind's attempts to explain and
resolve the intangible fear we feel inside.
But it doesn't have to stay like this.
Once we know the truth about these problems, it's possible to turn it all around and move beyond them to become the strong, confident, unique, worthy individual that it's
our birthright to be... truly free from all unnecessary self-doubt and fear.
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Contains detailed explanations of anxiety, symptoms, meds, disorders etc. and a new way of looking at these problems.
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Check out the 'Help-For' books
Combining massive relief-bringing "aha" moments over "what is happening and why" with proven techniques to reduce anxiety
and build real inner confidence, these books can help you to see your problem differently and heal it naturally.
1. Anxiety Disorders: Mental Illness or Normal?
2. Calm Anxiety: Taking Back Control
3. Evolving Self Confidence: How to Become Free From Anxiety Disorders and Depression
Generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, panic disorder, PTSD, social phobia... something just went wrong in our brain that needs fixing?
Or is there a better explanation?
(Please note, this book does not contain any self-help advice. It is a short insightful introduction to the concept of
anxiety disorders being the result of negative life experiences and not illness.)
An easy, two hour read to help change self-limiting attitudes and beliefs about anxiety disorders and take the first step towards recovery. (Digital
format – can be read on all devices: Kindle, eReaders, pcs, tablets and smartphones).
For generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, panic disorder, social phobia, PTSD, severe depression and more (eg. BDD, eating disorders, personality disorders,
bipolar) – no matter how severe they may be.
With groundbreaking insight into these awful problems, this book reveals the main underlying cause of anxiety disorders (and severe depression) and shows how to
use this knowledge to become truly free.