Over time, if not resolved, persistent increased anxiety can lead to a number of more serious problems such as uncontrollable worrying, panic attacks that come out of the blue, obsessive
thoughts and compulsive behaviours, irrational fears and phobias (particularly social phobia) and, in some cases,
even severe depression.
Today, cognitive (thinking) and behavioural problems involving high anxiety and fear are classed as anxiety disorders. This is based on the medical model, which views these
problems as mental illnesses, 'disorders' where something has gone wrong in the brain and the answer lies in 'fixing' what's gone wrong – often with medication.
However, a look into life experiences reveals the real reason...
Take the middle-aged woman (emotionally fragile from early life stress and conflict) who suffers emotional abuse at the hands of her
partner – abuse that not only scares her but also makes her feel that she cannot do anything right, and that everything she
does fails miserably or is totally worthless. Is her generalized anxiety disorder (or severe depression for that matter) simply the result of something
going wrong in her brain that can be fixed by medication?
What about the man in his early twenties, riddled with anxiety, whose father constantly put him down and criticized him with such venom as a
child that he's now petrified others will do the same. Is his social phobic behaviour really dis-ordered and irrational?
Or the teenage girl, brought up by overly strict religious parents that have so drummed the fear of God into her that all she can do to
obtain relief (from destruction by the Lord) is turn to rituals. Are her obsessive, fearful thoughts and compulsive behaviours really due to mental illness?
Generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, social phobia, PTSD, panic disorder, severe depression – are any of these problems truly irrational, dis-ordered and caused by mental illness?
Or is there a better explanation?
How many 'normal' people...
Say 'Touch Wood' so as not to tempt fate?
Repeatedly check doors, windows, switches?
Take a drink before social functions?
Avoid public speaking at all costs?
Almost everyone displays behaviours associated with anxiety disorders and depression (such as disturbing thoughts, ritualistic checking, the need for
perfection, increased anxiousness, panic and despair) to some degree at some time in his or her life – more so in times of stress – for these problems reflect the subconscious ways
we humans have evolved to protect ourselves.
When we look at the backgrounds of large numbers of people with anxiety and depression problems, they are often strikingly similar in many ways. Stressful life experiences with
subsequent feelings of insecurity and damaged self-esteem occur across the board with such regularity, and are so similar, that it is hard to see how these factors cannot play a
major role in the onset of these problems.
Feeling in Some Way – 'Bad' / 'Wrong' / 'Not Good Enough'
Research shows that over 50% of anxiety disorders start before the age of fourteen. It's probably more like 90%.
The way we feel about our self in childhood and adolescence can stay with us a lifetime and those who experience feelings of insecurity and vulnerability when
growing up are surely more susceptible to develop anxiety-related problems later in life.
This highlights a critical component in these problems that hasn't really been given the attention it deserves: the way we feel about ourself deep inside.
Shattered self-esteem and being scared... a very potent mix. This lies at the heart of anxiety problems and disorders. It also lies at the heart of
And so, all that you read from 'Help-For' is based on the premise:
Not diseases, disorders or mental illness, anxiety and
depression problems involve natural survival instincts common to us all – normal self-protective thoughts, feelings and behaviours that become over-sensitive, intensified
and grossly exaggerated way above normal. They grow out of over-exposure to certain negative life events and experiences... ones that make us feel
insecure and afraid.
Understanding these problems in this way is the first step towards healing.
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Anxiety Disorders: Mental Illness or Normal?
Generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, panic disorder, PTSD, social phobia... something just went wrong in our brain that needs fixing?
Or is there a better explanation?
(Please note, this book does not contain any self-help techniques. It is a small insightful introduction to the concept of
anxiety disorders developing as a result of negative life experiences rather than due to illness.)
An easy, two hour read that challenges the prevailing attitudes and beliefs about the cause and cure of anxiety disorders. (Digital
format – can be read on all devices: Kindle, eReaders, pcs, tablets and smartphones).
A better explanation for anxiety disorders? You decide ››
Read the First Chapter
Evolving Self Confidence:
How to Become Free From Anxiety Disorders and Depression
For generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, panic disorder, social phobia, PTSD, severe depression and more (eg. BDD, eating disorders, personality disorders, bipolar) – no matter how
long they've been there.
With groundbreaking insight into these awful problems, this book reveals the underlying cause of anxiety-based disorders (and severe depression)
and shows you how to use this knowledge to become truly free.