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Many people stay like this, generally more nervous/anxious, held back by vague doubts and fears. But for others,
over time, if it isn't resolved, frequent high anxiety anxiety can lead to a number of more serious problems such as uncontrollable worrying, panic attacks that come out of the blue, obsessive thoughts
and compulsive behaviours, irrational fears and phobias (particularly social phobia) and, in some cases, even severe depression.
Today, cognitive (thinking) and behavioural problems involving high anxiety and fear are classed as anxiety disorders. This is based on the medical model, which views these
problems as mental illnesses, 'disorders' where something goes wrong in the brain and the answer lies in 'fixing' the thing that has gone wrong – often with medication.
However...
Take the middle-aged woman (emotionally fragile from early life stress and conflict) who suffers emotional abuse at the hands of her
partner – abuse that not only scares her but also makes her feel that she cannot do anything right and that everything she
tries wil fail miserably or is totally worthless. Is her generalized anxiety disorder (or severe depression for that matter) simply the result of something
going wrong in her brain that can be fixed by medication?
What about the man in his early twenties, riddled with anxiety, whose father constantly put him down and criticized him with such venom as a
child that he's now petrified others will do the same. Is his social phobic behaviour truly dis-ordered and irrational?
Or the teenage girl brought up by overly strict religious parents that have so drummed the fear of God into her that all she can do to
obtain relief (from punishment by the Lord) is turn to rituals. Are her obsessive, fearful thoughts and compulsive behaviours really all down to mental illness?
Generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, social phobia, PTSD, panic disorder, severe depression – are any of these problems truly irrational, dis-ordered and mental illness?
Or is there a better explanation?
How many 'normal' people...
 Say 'Touch Wood' so as not to tempt fate?
Repeatedly check doors, windows, switches?
Take a drink before social functions?
Avoid public speaking at all costs?
Almost everyone displays behaviours associated with anxiety disorders or depression (such as troublesome thoughts, over-checking, the need for
perfection, increased anxiousness, moments of panic and periods of despair) to some degree at some time in his or her life – more so in times of stress – for these problems reflect the subconscious ways
we humans have evolved to protect ourselves.
When we look at the backgrounds of large numbers of people with these problems, they are often strikingly similar in many ways. Stressful life experiences with
subsequent feelings of insecurity and damaged self-esteem occur across the board with such regularity, and are so similar, that it is hard to see how these factors cannot play a
major role in the onset of these problems.
Anxiety Problems and Self Confidence – Feeling in Some Way 'Bad' or 'Wrong' or 'Not Good Enough'
Research shows that over 50% of anxiety disorders start before the age of fourteen (it's probably more like 90%) and many people, when asked what they remember
most about the start of their problem, reply "being too nervous for a long time".
The way we feel about our self in childhood and adolescence can stay with us a lifetime and those who are frequently made to feel weak and vulnerable when
growing up (or later in life for some) are surely more susceptible to develop anxiety-related problems down the line.
If we go through a period in life where we are constantly 'put down', 'picked on' or made to feel threatened in any way it's not suprising that anxiety (our inner self-protection instinct)
will ramp up and we'll become anxious – wary, more alert, constantly on the look out for danger in order to protect ourself. However, for this anxiety to become extreme or to
develop into a chronic anxiety disorder (such as: GAD, OCD, Panic Disorder, Social Phobia etc.) there's something else involved, something that affects everything we think about ourself
and our self-worth. It is: feeling bad.
Stressful/threatening/conflict situations not only scare us, they make us feel bad (upset, hurt, insecure, weak, afraid, small, inadequate, sad, angry, confused... a whole myriad of negative feelings). And
if we feel bad often enough, for long enough, we can start to believe that we feel this way because there is something inherently 'bad' or 'wrong' or 'not good enough' about us. Over time, self
confidence crumbles.
This highlights a critical component in the development of these problems that hasn't really been given the attention it deserves: feeling bad about ourself deep inside. Indeed, it's the
(subconscious) linking of being in some way 'bad' , 'wrong' or 'not good enough' with being scared that's really to blame for these problems.
Imagine: being scared because we are not good enough... often... too often... too much.
It is this, not mental illness, that lies at the heart of most anxiety problems and disorders (including severe depression). It also lies at the heart of their cure.
And so, all that you read from 'Help-For' is based on the premise:
Not diseases, disorders or mental illness, anxiety and
depression problems involve natural survival instincts common to us all – normal self-protective thoughts, feelings and behaviours that become over-sensitive and intensified,
grossly exaggerated and out of control.
They develop from experiencing too many (or too severe) stressful, negative life issues and events... ones that make us feel weak and vulnerable.
In essence, these problems come from our subconscious trying to protect us when life has made us afraid. And they start, strengthen and grow from our mind's attempts to explain and
resolve the intangible fear we feel inside.
When we can see these problems for what they really are, it's possible to cure them completely. Understanding and acceptance allows hurt to heal, removes self-doubt and
starves fear of it's fuel. Understanding and accepting that our problem is totally justified, given our life experiences, offers the one, true way to fully extinguish the
smoldering ball of bad feelings inside (the ones that keep the fear alive) and move beyond anxiety to become the strong, confident, unique, worthy individual that it's our birthright to be.
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Calm Anxiety: Taking Back Control
– For anyone struggling with high anxiety and nervousness... Learn how to remove the fear, stop the anxiety and restore high self-esteem.
Evolving Self Confidence: How to Become Free From Anxiety Disorders and Depression
– For those who have been too nervous/anxious for a long time and are now starting to experience such things as: uncontrollable worrying, panic attacks out of the blue, obsessive thoughts and compulsive
behaviours, crippling social fears and phobias, chronic post-trauma stress, more depression – or – have/have been diagnosed with a full-blown anxiety disorder... Learn how to cure
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Most Representative Review:
This is a very helpful book for the anxious among us. It is not a CBT or ACT book. 'Calm anxiety' has a distinct approach to anxiety. In fact, the book covers it
all: the fight-or-flight response, neural connections, upbringing and beliefs, gradual automation, acceptance of feelings and so forth. Dixon beautifully ties it all
together.
Most books on anxiety, like the ones based on CBT and ACT, have 'techniques' as their core. 'Calm anxiety', however, goes deeper. It focuses on the way we were 'conditioned'
to believe we are not good enough. Here is were the book goes further than other books. The core feeling of not being good enough is addressed. Dixon emphasizes that it is
important to say to yourself that there are good reasons for you to feel the way you do. This is acceptance and stops fighting anxious feelings. Furthermore, you now know
that you have been conditioned to believe that you are defective in some way. Therefore, the anxious feelings do not have the same meaning any more. You always were
good. This is the central idea in the book, which is elaborated. A highly recommendable read. Concise, though all encompassing.
I have had a few therapies and read numerous books on the topic. For me, this one stands out, because it goes to the heart of the matter.
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